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THE ETIQUETTE

I have complied suggested etiquette tips below as reference, but feel free to adjust and modify them to suit your event.

Sometimes even the oldest rules are meant to be broken.

 

FOR FORMAL EVENTS :

Step 1 : Identify the Host – Typically the names listed first identify who is hosting (paying) for the event.

Step 2 : Identify the Request – Formal wedding invitation have one of two requests.  If the event is being held in a place of worship the phrase ‘request the honor of your presence, at the marriage of their daughter’ is used.   ‘Request the pleasure of your company, at the marriage of their daughter’ is used for secular locations.  If the couple is hosting, it is common to use ‘invite you to join us at the celebration of our marriage’.

Step 3 : Identify the Bride and Groom – Traditionally the bride is listed first and if she shares a lastname with her parents, only the first and middle names are included.  The groom is identified with title (Mr. / Dr. / etc.), first, middle and last.  A more modern interpretation often includes just the first and last names of both parties.

Step 4 : Identify the Date and Time – The date and time are always spelled out, with the month and day being capitalized.  There is no ‘and’ when writing out the year, a correct example is two thousand twelve, not two thousand and twelve.

Step 5 : Identify the Location – If the ceremony is at a well-known location the street address does not need to be included.  The zip code never needs to be included on the wedding invitation.

Suggestions for Identifying the Host (s)

Hosted by Brides Parents

Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents Lastname

Request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter

Bride First Middle

To

Groom First Middle Last

Both Sets of Parents

Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents Lastname

And

Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parents Lastname

Request the honor of your presence

At the marriage of their children

Bride First Middle

And

Groom First Middle

Bride’s Parents are Hosting, but want to include Grooms Parents names

Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents Lastname

Request the honor of your presence

At the marriage of their daughter

Bride First Middle

To Groom’s First Middle Last

Son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parents Lastname

Bride & Groom are hosting

You are invited to celebrate

The wedding of

Bride First Middle Last

And

Groom First Middle Last

OR

Together with their parents

Bride First Middle Last

And

Groom First Middle Last

Request the honor of your presence

Brides Parents are Hosting and Divorced

(If issued by the parent who raised her)

Ms. Brides Mother’s First Last

Requests the honor of your presence

At the wedding of her daughter

Bride First Middle

(if hosting together)

Mr. Bride’s Father First Last

And

Ms. Bride’s Mother First Last

Request the honor of your presence

At the marriage of their daughter

Bride First Middle

Divorced and remarried parents, both hosting

Mr. and Mrs. Lastname 1

And

Mr. and Mrs. Lastname 2

Request the honor of your presence

At the marriage of their daughter

Bride First Middle

OR

Mr. and Mrs. Lastname 1

And

Mr. and Mrs. Lastname 2

Request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of

Bride First Middle Last

To

Invite to Reception Only (common for destination weddings)

Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Father First Last

Invite you to join us

In celebrating the recent marriage of our daughter

Bride First Middle Last

To

Groom First Last

Which took place on Date, in Location

Come toast the happy couple

Day of the Week, Month Date, Year

Location

City, State

FOR INFORMAL EVENTS:

Get creative!  As long as the important details are included (event request, names of the happy couple, date, time and location) the sky is the limit.  Typically titles (Mr. / Mrs. / etc.) are omitted from informal invitations.

Sample 1

Bride First Middle Last

And

Groom First Middle Last

Invite you to share

In the joy of their marriage

Day of the week, the date of Month

At time

Event Location

City, State

 

Sample 2

Please share in our joy

At the marriage of our daughter

Bride First Last

To

Groom First Last

Month Day, Year (not written out)

At time

Location

City, State

 

Sample 3

You’re invited

To the marriage of

Bride First Middle Last

And

Groom First Middle Last.

We hope you will join us

And celebrate our union

Day of the week, the date of Month

At time

Event Location

City, State

 

Sample 4

Bride First Last and Groom First Last

Invite you to attend

Their marriage

On

Day of the week, Month Date, Year (not written out)

At time

Event Location

City, State

 

Sample 5

Together with their families

Bride First Last and Groom First Last

Invite you to attend

Their marriage

On

Day of the week, Month Date, Year (not written out)

At time

Event Location

City, State